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Mom: The Stage Manager of my life! In the grand production of life, there’s always one person who stands out as the guiding force behind the scenes, orchestrating every moment with love and grace. For me, that person is my mother, Anita. She’s not just a mother; she’s my first and forever best friend. In previous posts and discussions, I’ve often referred to the stage of life, emphasizing where people reside – the Front Row, the Balcony, or the Parking Lot. Throughout, I’ve proudly reserved the center seat for my mom. However, upon deeper reflection on her significance in my life, it’s evident she’s far more than a mere spectator; she’s the Stage Manager, flawlessly supporting every facet with meticulous attention and unwavering precision. Just like a Stage Manager in a theater production, my mother is always there, ready to ensure that everything runs smoothly (or at least she is really good at hiding the chaos from me). She anticipates my needs before I even realize them myself, just like a Stage Manager who knows the script by heart. From ensuring I have my favorite dinners on Sunday to offering a listening ear whenever I need it, she’s there backstage, ensuring everything is perfect for the performance of my life. One of the most remarkable parallels between my mother and a Stage Manager is her ability to handle any situation with calmness and poise. As a high-energy person, who often talks a mile a minute, she is often the only one who can get me centered, focused, and calm within a matter of seconds. Just as a Stage Manager remains composed amidst chaos backstage, my mother navigates the ups and downs of life with unwavering strength and grace. No matter what challenges come our way, she’s there, a steady presence in the wings, guiding me through with her wisdom and unwavering support. Moreover, my mother’s attention to detail rivals the most meticulous Stage Manager and Designer for our favorite show, Project Runway! Not only did she design and sew countless costumes for me during my time in the theater, but she also masterfully designed and made my prom dresses, pageant gowns, and Halloween ensembles… and ensembles they were!! Watching her work, I marveled at her skill and speed; she could sew a button and execute a hem faster than anyone I know. Her thoughtfulness and attention to every little aspect make each moment feel tailor-made and special, much like the intricate staging of a theater production. But the most profound aspect of my mother’s role as the Stage Manager of my life is her endless love and compassion. She taught me what unconditional love was and I have been blessed never to see that love waver. Just like a Stage Manager works tirelessly behind the scenes to ensure the success of the show, my mother’s love knows no bounds or time limits. Her selfless sacrifices, boundless patience, and unconditional support are the cornerstone of my very existence. As I conclude this tribute to my mother, I want to express my deepest gratitude to her. Mom, here are your virtual flowers! Thank you, Mom, for your sore knees, which I know are from countless prayers uttered for my well-being. Thank you for your infectious smile that brightens even the darkest days and keeps us going when the going gets tough (which I am proud I inherited). And thank you for all the times I didn’t get to say thank you, for your love knows no conditions or expectations… and I Thank God for that and you! “I Love You More”

75 Plus Years Around the Planet: What I Know for Sure! At 75 plus years old, I am filled with a sense of gratitude for the life I have lived and who I am. April has always been my month for reflection, a time when the flowers bloom and warm weather mirrors the growth and change happening within me. As a proud Aries, Spring is truly my season, and I feel a renewed energy and passion. With each passing year, I find myself taking longer to assess where I am in life, and in this moment, I am content. My world is worry-free and filled with joy, peace, love, hope – all emotions that make my heart swell with gratefulness. Every day brings new ideas and insights that kindle my enthusiasm for what lies ahead. In my 70th decade of life (and beyond), I refuse to let age define me or limit what I can achieve. Instead of just surviving each day, I choose to live fully present in every moment so as not to miss out on any experience or opportunity for growth. Life at 75 plus years old may be seen by some as nearing the end of one’s journey – but for me it’s simply another chapter in a story still unfolding beautifully before my eyes. WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE: Prioritize Nurture your Mind, Body and Spirit Stop, Start, Continue Ask WHY, rather than HOW Focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want People aren’t mad at you, they’re mad BECAUSE it’s you Get a House Keeper who does laundry Ignite your inner flame Do not Settle Whatever brings you Joy, Do more of it When it comes to assessing YOUR life, it’s important to reflect on the points that truly resonate with you. Perhaps the idea of decluttering your physical space and letting go of things no longer serving you speaks volumes. Or maybe setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care is what your soul craves. Whatever it may be, taking the time to evaluate where you stand in life can lead to transformative change. Spring cleaning isn’t just about tidying up your home – it’s about clearing out mental clutter, toxic relationships, and negative habits as well. By incorporating these changes into your daily routine, you are paving the way for a brighter future filled with growth and peace. So take a moment to assess what areas of your life need attention, and contact me so we can talk. I want to hear from you. I am Rita…speaking to your Spirit I’d love to hear from you. Let me know what you think about my perspective and add your own. And let me know if you plan to incorporate any parts of this blog in your everyday life.

Unlocking Peace: The Power of Forgiveness Have you ever found yourself grappling with the need to forgive someone close who keeps pushing your buttons, or perhaps struggling to let go of the pain caused by a former partner’s betrayal? Maybe you’ve even wrestled with forgiving yourself for past mistakes, haunted by feelings of guilt and self-doubt. And what about those childhood incidents that cast a shadow of resentment over your present?In today’s complex world, forgiveness isn’t just a nice idea; it’s essential for navigating life’s challenges. Whether it’s forgiving others for their flaws, showing grace to ourselves, or finding closure in past hurts, forgiveness is key to unlocking peace and healing.As believers in Christ, we’re called to forgive as we are forgiven daily by Jesus. While I’ll jokingly admit I’m no Jesus, the truth is, I’m constantly striving to be more like him. Forgiveness has been a personal struggle for me at times, as it may have been for you. Is there something you’re struggling to forgive, big or small? Forgiveness isn’t about forgetting; it’s about releasing the grip of trauma, challenge, or pain. I’ve crafted 7 action steps to forgiveness using the word FORGIVE. Today, I’ll share two favorites: Facing Your Feelings Acknowledging our emotions is the first step. Instead of burying or pushing aside our pain, we must confront it head-on. Embracing our feelings creates space for healing, recognizing their validity, and beginning the process of release.Facing your feelings means allowing yourself to sit with discomfort. It’s natural to want to avoid pain, but doing so only prolongs our suffering. Take the time to explore your emotions, even if they’re uncomfortable. Whether it’s anger, sadness, or disappointment, give yourself permission to feel. By facing our feelings, we create an opportunity for growth. We acknowledge the impact of past experiences on our present emotions, allowing ourselves to process and heal from them. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay. Emotions are neither good nor bad; they simply are. Embracing them is the first step towards forgiveness and inner peace. Granting Grace After facing our feelings head on, the next step is to extend grace to those who’ve wronged us. And for some they may need that “Amazing Grace” like the song, type of grace. You know what I mean! Forgiveness isn’t about excusing hurtful actions but freeing ourselves from resentment’s grip. It requires empathy and compassion, understanding everyone’s imperfections. How many times have you known better, but didn’t do better yourself? Granting grace means letting go of the desire for revenge or retribution. It’s recognizing that holding onto anger and bitterness only harms us in the long run. Instead, we choose to release the burden of resentment, offering forgiveness as a gift to ourselves. We open ourselves up to healing and reconciliation. Remember, it doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning the wrongdoing; it’s about choosing to move forward with peace and compassion in our hearts. Remember, forgiveness is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and self-compassion. If you’re struggling, seek support. Are you curious to what the other action steps are to true forgiveness? Join us for our upcoming webinar: Forgiveness Detox on May 22nd at 7 pm. Led by Coach Angela, this workshop offers practical strategies for forgiveness and toxicity release. Register now at RitaRicks.com. Together, let’s embrace forgiveness and embark on a path of healing and growth.

It’s time to make a shift from focusing on HOW to asking WHY Are you tired of getting caught up in the nitty-gritty details of how to complete a project, only to lose sight of the bigger picture? It’s time to make a shift from focusing on HOW to asking WHY. By changing your approach and mindset, you can unlock new levels of creativity, innovation, and success in all your projects. Walk with me as I share with you how asking WHY can lead to greater clarity, purpose, and success in your work. The concept of shifting from HOW to WHY involves a fundamental change in mindset–instead of constantly asking ourselves HOW we can accomplish something, we should start by questioning WHY it needs to be done in the first place. Too often, our focus on “HOW” leads us to over look or even disregard the underlying purpose or reason behind our actions. By shifting our attention towards understanding the “WHY,” we can gain deeper insights into the significance and long-term impact of our work. Furthermore, this transition from how-ing to why-ing allows us to tap into our creativity by thinking outside-the-box. Instead of being confined by established processes, we can explore alternative methods that possibly prove more effective at accomplishing a specific goal. The WHY gives meaning and purpose to our work. It is essential to feel connected to what we do and believe that it has value. With out this sense of purpose, projects can become monotonous and uninspiring leading to reduced motivation and commitment. On the other hand, when we understand how our contributions fit into the bigger picture, we are more likely to be passionate about our work and go above and beyond for its success. Knowing WHY helps to measure success accurately, insuring the project aligns with the purpose and make adjustments as needed. Below are two real-life case studies of projects that successfully implemented the WHY approach. You’re probably familiar with both companies. Apple’s iPhone: The introduction of the iPhone by Apple in 2007 revolutionized the smart phone market. Instead of focusing solely on the technical specifications and features, Steve Jobs identified the underlying need for a device that could seamlessly integrate various functions like calling, internet browsing, music, and more. Airbnb: The founders of Airbnb disrupted the hospitality industry with their unique approach to short-term rentals. Rather than simply providing accommodation options like hotels do, they dug deeper into people’s desire for authentic travel experiences at affordable prices. By constantly questioning the purpose and intention behind a project, these companies were able to meet the deeper needs of their customers, create innovative solutions, and achieve long-term success. In other words… where do you want to end up? Making a shift from focusing on HOW to complete something to understanding WHY it needs to be done can have a profound impact not only on your professional projects but also on your overall approach and mindset. Shifting from HOW to WHY involves a change in perspective and an emphasis on purpose, motivation, and meaning. This transformation can bring about numerous benefits such as clarity, creativity, motivation, collaboration and personal growth-all of which contribute towards achieving successful out comes both professionally and personally. The question should always be… WHY AM I REALLY DOING THIS? I am Rita…speaking to your Spirit I’d love to hear from you. Let me know what you think about my perspective and add your own. And let me know if you plan to incorporate any parts of this blog in your everyday life.

Rising Above: Healing the Wounds of Hurtful Words Growing up, the saying “Sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never harm me” echoed in my ears, meant to offer solace in the face of peoples hurtful words. However, I soon realized its inadequacy in capturing the true impact of words on our emotional well-being. They indeed did hurt. Words possess a profound power—they shape our perceptions, define our self-worth, and deeply influence our emotional state. Understanding the significance of words is highlighted through Gary Chapman’s theory of love languages, where words of affirmation rank as the second largest love language. This features the crucial role words play in human relationships—they have the ability to uplift, encourage, and affirm our worth. Conversely, when wielded carelessly or maliciously, they can inflict wounds that cut deep beneath the surface. I vividly recall moments when hurtful words made me doubt my value and sense of belonging. One instance, in particular, stands out—a person I trusted and cherished spoke slanderous lies behind my back to someone I deeply cared for. The shock and devastation were overwhelming, and even though the lies weren’t believed (Thank God), the negative emotions persisted. It served as a stark reminder of the immense power words hold, especially when they come from those we hold dear. And deep down I know the relationship will never be the same again. Yet, beyond the pain lies an opportunity for growth and healing. Why? Because we must! It’s a chance for us to delve into our emotions, understand the wounds inflicted, and embark on a journey of self-discovery and resilience. This journey begins with acknowledging the depth of our feelings (How bad does it hurt?) and allowing ourselves the grace to process the pain in a healthy and constructive manner. Whether through journaling to untangle our thoughts, finding solace in moments of silence to connect with our inner selves or our faith, seeking guidance from a coach or therapist, or leaning on the unwavering support of loved ones, it’s essential to create the space needed to grieve and ultimately heal from the wounds caused by hurtful words. Challenging the damaging beliefs implanted by hurtful words is crucial for reclaiming our sense of self-worth and dignity. We must actively counteract the negative narratives that may have taken root within us, reminding ourselves of our inherent value and resilience. This involves setting clear boundaries to protect our emotional well-being and recognizing when it’s necessary to distance ourselves from toxic relationships, prioritizing our healing and growth. In my previous blog, I discussed the significance of where people stand in your journey through life. Oftentimes, those who were once closest to you, your front row companions, or ride-or-dies, find themselves relegated to the parking lot or even on the other side of I-95. As we embark on this journey of healing, let’s not forget the importance of self-compassion and forgiveness. Extending grace to ourselves and others acknowledges our shared humanity and imperfections. While forgiveness is a powerful tool, it’s also essential to remember. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the hurtful words or the pain they caused; rather, it’s about releasing their hold on us and choosing to move forward with compassion and grace. In conclusion, may you find strength in adversity and courage in pain, knowing that healing is attainable. Though it may require time and effort, with faith, forgiveness, and empathy, we can rise above the hurt and discover inner peace. Remember, while words may leave lasting scars, they do not define us. We are resilient beings capable of healing and growth. By embracing our inner strength and worth, we reclaim our dignity and sense of self, transcending the pain of hurtful words.