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As CEO of Your Life: Strategic Reflections on What to Stop, Start, and Carry Forward in the New Year As CEO of your life, you create your own reality. As you enter a new year filled with possibilities, it’s time to strategically reflect on what will truly propel you forward as well as leaving behind any habits or patterns that are holding you back. In this blog post, I want you to delve into the power of self-reflection and explore what to stop, start, and carry forward in order to experience a fulfilling year ahead.  I’m going to share some strategic insights that will empower you to take charge of your life. Being the CEO of your life means taking ownership of your decisions, choices, and actions. It is about embracing the role of a leader and creating a vision for yourself that aligns with your values, goals, and aspirations. Just like a CEO of a company, you have the power to make strategic decisions that will steer your life towards success, joy and peace.  If you’re going through the motions without actively taking control of your life…Then you’re living on autopilot. As CEO of your life, you are responsible for setting clear objectives and designing actionable plans to achieve them. You have to be intentional about how you spend your time, what habits you develop, and what relationships you nurture. This requires a deep understanding of yourself – knowing your strengths, weaknesses, passions, and purpose. Think about it – no one knows you better than yourself. You are uniquely equipped with knowledge about what makes you happy or unhappy; what motivates or demotivates you; what fulfills or drains you. It is essential to tap into this self-awareness regularly through reflection and silence and planning.  One of the main reasons why reflection and planning are important for personal growth is that they help you identify areas where you need improvement. By taking a step back and evaluating your actions, behaviors, and thought patterns, you gain valuable insights into your strengths and weaknesses. This self-awareness is vital as it allows you to focus on specific areas that require attention or change. You probably will discover patterns of behavior that have been holding you back from reaching your full potential or hindering your progress. Taking time for self-reflection allows you to slow down and tune into your thoughts, feelings, desires, and values. It enables you to understand what truly matters to you and ultimately align your actions with your spirit. Planning goes hand in hand with reflection as it empowers you to turn insights gained from self-reflection into actionable goals. Without a solid plan in place, it is easy to get lost or feel overwhelmed while trying to achieve personal growth. Planning provides structure and direction. Identifying what needs to stop in your life can be a difficult but crucial step towards personal growth and self-improvement. We often get so caught up in our daily routines and habits that we fail to recognize patterns or behaviors that may no longer be serving us well. This could mean anything from toxic relationships to negative thought patterns, or even destructive habits such as procrastination or self-doubt. The first step towards identifying what needs to stop is to  set aside some quiet time where you can honestly evaluate your life without any distractions. Ask yourself questions such as: What am I doing that is causing me stress? What are the things that drain my energy and bring me down? What habits or behaviors are holding me back from reaching my goals?  For example, a toxic relationship may cause feelings of insecurity and self-doubt, whereas procrastinating on important tasks can lead to increased stress levels and missed opportunities. These negative influences can also manifest physically in the form of headaches, anxiety, fatigue, or other health issues. By becoming more mindful of how these things affect you both mentally and physically, you’ll gain a better understanding of why they need to be stopped. As you start a new year, it’s natural to reflect on your past habits and behaviors and consider ways to improve. Whether you’re looking to become more productive, strengthen your relationships, or simply live a healthier lifestyle, incorporating new habits and actions into your daily routine can greatly benefit you in the long run. Here are some key steps for successfully introducing new habits and actions into your daily routine: Before starting any new habit or action, it’s important to have a clear understanding of why you want to implement it. Start small by selecting one or two key habits to focus on at first. Once these become second nature, gradually add more over time. Schedule specific times for when you will practice the habit each day and hold yourself accountable by setting reminders. Having someone else hold you accountable can be incredibly helpful when trying to introduce new habits into your routine. It is common to set goals and make resolutions for the future. However, before diving into the future, it is important to reflect on the past year and acknowledge what worked well. This practice of strategic reflection allows you to identify areas that may need improvement. Take time to reflect on what activities or habits helped you reach your goals or brought positivity into your life. This is why carrying forward positive practices from the past year is crucial. These could be things like regular exercise, setting aside time for self-care, networking events that led to career opportunities, or consistently meeting deadlines at work. Once you’ve  identified these practices, make a conscious effort to continue them in the new year. If they were helpful in the past, chances are they will continue to bring value in the present and future as well. It is important not to let go of things that are working well just because it’s a new year.  Also carrying forward positive practices also means learning from your mistakes and making necessary changes. Staying accountable and motivated…

Embracing the New Year: Expressing Love to Those in Our Front Row As the curtains begin to rise on a new year, the stage of life suggest that we ponder the roles people play in our personal narratives. It’s associated to a grand theater where individuals find their places—some in the front row, some in the balcony, and others relegated to the parking lot. The front row represents a select few—those special souls who walk alongside us through the highs and lows. Rita refers to them as our Ride-or-Dies! They are the pillars of strength, the ones who witness our vulnerabilities and celebrate our triumphs. These individuals aren’t just witnesses to our lives; they’re active participants, offering unwavering support and boundless love. In my journey, my dear brother occupied a prominent seat in this front row. His love was a compass that guided me through life’s labyrinth, his presence an anchor that provided support in rough and turbulent times. His passing emphasized the depth of this front-row connection, igniting a profound realization—a recognition of the value of expressing love and gratitude while we have the chance. Then there’s the balcony—a space reserved for those with whom we share a more peripheral connection. They’re part of our world, but their involvement is not as deeply rooted as those in the front row. These individuals witness parts of our lives, engaging in conversations and shared experiences, but they might not comprehend the intricacies of our inner world. It’s important to maintain your boundaries with these folks. Lastly, there’s the parking lot—a metaphorical space for people who were once part of our story but, for various reasons, no longer align with our journey. They might include former friends, acquaintances, Ex’s, or individuals whose paths diverged from ours.(Remember, some people are only in our lives only for a season) While their presence might have held significance at one point, life’s shifting dynamics led to their place in the parking lot. The separation between these tiers isn’t about hierarchies (or affordability like the theatre); it’s about understanding the varying degrees of connection and involvement in our lives. It’s about recognizing the depth of love, support, and loyalty you have surrounding you. Ultimately, it’s about comprehending the invaluable contribution of those in the front row—the love that molds our being and empowers us to embrace our truest selves. This new year prompts us not just to set resolutions but to reflect on the people who enrich our lives—the front row folks who offer unwavering love and support, the balcony acquaintances who share glimpses of our world, and the parking lot individuals whose paths diverged from ours. Reach out to those in your front row today—express your love and gratitude while you have the chance. May this new year be a testament to cherishing those in our front row—vocalizing our love and appreciation for their unwavering support. Let’s navigate this new year’s stage with gratitude for the roles these individuals play, for it’s their love that adds depth and richness to our stories. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

A Journey of Gratitude and Renewal in Ghana When Rita and I first met almost 4 years ago, she asked me to research options for us to visit Ghana. Initially, I didn’t have a pull to go to Ghana, but as I delved into my research, it became a journey I couldn’t resist. Despite facing obstacles such as time constraints and other distractions, we remained determined to make this dream a reality. Our shared passion for setting foot on the motherland, witnessing the Door of No Return, and connecting with local women entrepreneurs never wavered. And now, looking back on our trip, it has exceeded all our expectations – it truly was a dream come true. The impact it had on me is indescribable; it touched my soul in ways I never could have anticipated. Upon entering the vibrant soils of Ghana, I felt as if I had entered a world where history breathed alongside the present, creating a quilt (made from kenti cloth) of warmth, resilience, and awakening. Our journey was more than just a travel expedition; it stirred the depths of my soul and opened my eyes to the extraordinary. Embraced by Ghana: A quilt of Warmth and Protection From the moment we arrived, the embrace of Ghana enveloped us, tenderly introducing us to a land teeming with life and a people overflowing with kindness. Our guide, Dumba, became the lighthouse of our expedition, illuminating the historical nuances and present realities of this beautiful country. His knowledge was more than facts; it was a bridge connecting us to Ghana’s past and present heartbeats. Dumba, along with our driver, extended themselves beyond expectation, crafting an experience that felt like a protective cocoon, allowing us to explore the best of Ghana without fear. The Unyielding Work Ethic: Lessons from Resilient Souls The work ethic of the Ghanaian people was a masterclass in dedication, resilience and faith. Everywhere we turned, individuals were engrossed in their crafts, be it selling plantain chips on bustling streets or the entrepreneurial endeavors of the 25 remarkable women we met. Their unwavering commitment to their families and their crafts left an indelible impression on me. They were not just hard workers; they were artisans of life, embodying talent, skill, and a profound respect for family. What I found to be significantly profound was that many of these business/hustles were family ran. Everyone had a specific job based on their skillset and were appreciated for their participation. Confronting Heartbreak: Shadows of History Yet, with the vibrancy, we confronted the haunting shadows of history (history I never learned in school). We were fortunate to visit the slave river and the castles that once confined living souls was an emotionally staggering experience. I wavered between crying, to praying, to getting angry, to questioning the moral compass of “these people” that call themselves Christians to do this to other people. The pain we felt echoed through time, a stark reminder of unimaginable suffering and resilience. The juxtaposition of beauty and tragedy, the ocean’s serenity against the haunting dungeons, left me grappling with the depths of human endurance and the courage it took to survive such deplorable conditions. I have learned that I have deep within me what it takes to be a true survivor thanks to those who came before me. The Roots: A Profound Connection Setting off on this voyage alongside my younger sister, my unwavering pillar of support, heightened the significance of this journey as a shared family experience. A couple of years ago, I presented my parents with an ancestry test that revealed their Ghanaian heritage, with both parents showing 20-28% Ghanaian lineage. Gratitude overwhelms me for the resilience Rita and I exhibited in maneuvering through the occasional hurdles while organizing this expedition. Our joint determination not only helped us navigate logistical challenges but also solidified an enduring connection as we embarked on this remarkable adventure together. A Heart full of Gratitude and Renewed Purpose Returning home, I carry with me an immense gratitude for God and my ancestor’s orchestration that led me to Ghana, my new home. This transformational journey was a testament to self-discovery, connection, and a profound understanding of our shared humanity. We paid homage to our ancestors, met extraordinary souls, and confronted head on the anguish of history. Ghana, with its beauty and resilience, has etched itself into the depths of my heart forever. This expedition was not just a trip; it was a catalyst for change, a call to advocate for justice, and a commitment to honoring those who came before us. Ghana has gifted me a renewed perspective, a deeper appreciation for life’s tapestry, and an unwavering commitment to preserving the legacy of resilience and strength. This journey was a blessing—a gift that continues to shape my path with its profound lessons and unwavering spirit.

Losing a Friend and Finding The Memories Losing a dear friend like Pat Bland Woodfolk has brought forth a wave of bittersweet nostalgia, as I am reminded of the vibrant memories we shared over the course of 60 years. I had so many questions after having lived in Taiwan for two years as the only black family in our vicinity during our last year there. Our subsequent move to Virginia ushered me into a new phase of life when I entered high school at Peabody HS, an institution marked by segregation where my peers looked just like me. The music pulsated with the rhythm of my soul, and the clothes and dances spoke directly to every fiber of my being. Those two years were nothing short of extraordinary; every party ended with me at Pat’s house, for a slumber party, while we engaged in deep conversations until dawn. She possessed not only academic brilliance but also kindness and confidence that left an indelible mark on my understanding of what it truly meant to embrace one’s identity as a Black person. She played an integral role that went beyond companionship.  Prior to attending Peabody and meeting Pat, I often felt different amidst diverse educational settings—an outsider looking in. But those formidable years at Peabody, unveiled a newfound sense of belonging rooted deeply within my essence. The 60s brought sit ins demanding justice, riots, powerful demonstrations, Motown, and a black awakening among all of us…and answers to many of the questions I had before arriving at Peabody. While a new assignment led us to Frankfurt Germany for my Junior and Senior year—I maintained precious connections with Pat and others who relentlessly sent me updates through magazines and records reflecting society’s evolution during this transformative decade. The class of 65 gathered in somber silence, our presence a heartfelt tribute to honor you and your beloved family. As I glanced upon your grieving loved ones, I felt a mixture of profound sadness and a deep affection fill the Church. The tears they shed flowed not only from sorrow but also from the depths of immeasurable love and immense respect for the remarkable woman they lost – an extraordinary sister, a devoted mother, a cherished aunt, and an adored grandmother. Dear Friend, as I stood there surrounded by memories we shared together, my heart yearned for your warm laughter and comforting words. The day of your Mom’s funeral, I leaned into the car to hug you and you consoled me as I cried remembering how special both our Moms were. Amidst the sadness intertwined with gratitude, I want to express my eternal appreciation for all that you were in my life – an invaluable source of inspiration who added immeasurable value to every moment we walked this earth together. Those treasured memories etched within my soul shall remain steadfast until fate reunites us once again. I am Rita…speaking to your Spirit

Crafting Your Life’s Blueprint: Why Having a Vision is Essential for Success Have you ever wondered what separates highly successful individuals from the rest? The secret lies in their ability to envision their dreams and relentlessly pursue them. Just like a beautifully crafted blueprint serves as a guide for architects, having a clear vision for your life sets the foundation for an extraordinary journey filled with purpose and achievement. In this blog post, you will learn why creating your life’s blueprint is essential for success and uncover practical tips on how to craft it effectively. Get ready to unlock the power of visualization and move towards greatness! Your personal vision is your mental map or guide that you can refer to when making decisions large and small. Having a strong sense of what you want in life gives you something to aim for and helps to keep you motivated when things get tough. Vision helps you define your goals, and remain inspired. It’s been said that the two most important days in a person’s life are the day we are born and the day we figure out why we are alive. Once we attain an understanding of the role we play in the world we can begin to identify and achieve our goals and dreams. Your goals and dreams are what give your life purpose and meaning. They are what pull you out of bed each day and live your life to the fullest. Without them, you would likely feel lost and unfulfilled. The first step in achieving your goals and dreams is identifying them. What is it that you truly want out of life? What do you hope to accomplish? These can be difficult questions to answer, but they are essential if you want to craft a blueprint for your life that will lead you to success. Once you have identified your goals, it’s important to break them down into smaller, more manageable pieces. Trying to accomplish too much at once is often overwhelming and can lead to setbacks. By taking things one step at a time, you increase your chances of achieving your overall goal. It’s vital that you take action towards achieving your goals. Dreams without action are just wishes. It’s up to you to make them a reality. So start today, crafting your blueprint for success! Begin by thinking about what you want to achieve in the short-term, medium-term, and long-term. What are your goals? What do you want your life to look like? What kind of person do you want to be? Answering these questions will help you develop a clearer picture of what you want to achieve. Once you have a good understanding of your vision, start taking steps towards making it a reality. If your goal is to start your own business, for example, research the industry, create a business plan, and start networking with people who can help make your dream a reality. The important thing is to take action and move closer to your goals each day. A life without a vision is like driving without destination; eventually, you’ll end up nowhere. So take the time to craft your vision for success today! It is not enough to have a vision; you must have a plan to achieve it. This requires discipline and focus. It is easy to get sidetracked or become bogged down in the details, but if you keep your eye on the prize, you will be more likely to succeed. Start by breaking down the vision into smaller goals. What do you need to do in the short-term to get closer to your long-term goal? Make a list of these things and then create a schedule or timeline for yourself. Try to be as specific as possible so that you can measure your progress along the way. It is also important to set some deadlines for yourself. Without a sense of urgency, it will be all too easy to procrastinate or get off track. However, be realistic in setting your deadlines; don’t make them so stringent that they become impossible to meet. Remember to include some flexibility in your plans. Things rarely go exactly as we expect them too, so allow for some wiggle room. This does not mean that you should not strive for excellence, but rather that you should recognize that life is unpredictable and that there may be times when you need to adapt your plans accordingly. Setbacks are inevitable, but it’s how you deal with them that counts. It’s important to remember that setbacks are only temporary and that you can overcome them if you maintain a positive outlook and take action. If you let setbacks get you down, it will be harder to pick yourself back up and keep going. It’s also important to celebrate your victories, no matter how small they may seem. A victory is a victory, and each one should be celebrated as such. By celebrating your successes, you’ll be more excited to keep pushing forward towards your goals. Without a vision, it is all too easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind and lose sight of what we are working towards. A vision provides us with a north star to guide our decisions and keep us on track. When we have a clear vision for our lives, it gives us the power to say no to things that don’t align with our goals. We can be more selective with how we spend our time and energy, and focus on activities that will help us move closer to our dreams. Having a vision also inspires us to take action. Instead of being content with where we are, we are motivated to keep pushing ourselves and growing. We become excited about the possibilities for our future and start taking steps to make them a reality. A vision gives us something to strive for, and the knowledge that it is possible to achieve great things. So if you haven’t…