Author: Angela Lightfoot

Mom: The Stage Manager of my life! In the grand production of life, there’s always one person who stands out as the guiding force behind the scenes, orchestrating every moment with love and grace. For me, that person is my mother, Anita. She’s not just a mother; she’s my first and forever best friend. In previous posts and discussions, I’ve often referred to the stage of life, emphasizing where people reside – the Front Row, the Balcony, or the Parking Lot. Throughout, I’ve proudly reserved the center seat for my mom. However, upon deeper reflection on her significance in my life, it’s evident she’s far more than a mere spectator; she’s the Stage Manager, flawlessly supporting every facet with meticulous attention and unwavering precision. Just like a Stage Manager in a theater production, my mother is always there, ready to ensure that everything runs smoothly (or at least she is really good at hiding the chaos from me). She anticipates my needs before I even realize them myself, just like a Stage Manager who knows the script by heart. From ensuring I have my favorite dinners on Sunday to offering a listening ear whenever I need it, she’s there backstage, ensuring everything is perfect for the performance of my life. One of the most remarkable parallels between my mother and a Stage Manager is her ability to handle any situation with calmness and poise. As a high-energy person, who often talks a mile a minute, she is often the only one who can get me centered, focused, and calm within a matter of seconds. Just as a Stage Manager remains composed amidst chaos backstage, my mother navigates the ups and downs of life with unwavering strength and grace. No matter what challenges come our way, she’s there, a steady presence in the wings, guiding me through with her wisdom and unwavering support. Moreover, my mother’s attention to detail rivals the most meticulous Stage Manager and Designer for our favorite show, Project Runway! Not only did she design and sew countless costumes for me during my time in the theater, but she also masterfully designed and made my prom dresses, pageant gowns, and Halloween ensembles… and ensembles they were!! Watching her work, I marveled at her skill and speed; she could sew a button and execute a hem faster than anyone I know. Her thoughtfulness and attention to every little aspect make each moment feel tailor-made and special, much like the intricate staging of a theater production. But the most profound aspect of my mother’s role as the Stage Manager of my life is her endless love and compassion. She taught me what unconditional love was and I have been blessed never to see that love waver. Just like a Stage Manager works tirelessly behind the scenes to ensure the success of the show, my mother’s love knows no bounds or time limits. Her selfless sacrifices, boundless patience, and unconditional support are the cornerstone of my very existence. As I conclude this tribute to my mother, I want to express my deepest gratitude to her. Mom, here are your virtual flowers! Thank you, Mom, for your sore knees, which I know are from countless prayers uttered for my well-being. Thank you for your infectious smile that brightens even the darkest days and keeps us going when the going gets tough (which I am proud I inherited). And thank you for all the times I didn’t get to say thank you, for your love knows no conditions or expectations… and I Thank God for that and you! “I Love You More”

Unlocking Peace: The Power of Forgiveness Have you ever found yourself grappling with the need to forgive someone close who keeps pushing your buttons, or perhaps struggling to let go of the pain caused by a former partner’s betrayal? Maybe you’ve even wrestled with forgiving yourself for past mistakes, haunted by feelings of guilt and self-doubt. And what about those childhood incidents that cast a shadow of resentment over your present?In today’s complex world, forgiveness isn’t just a nice idea; it’s essential for navigating life’s challenges. Whether it’s forgiving others for their flaws, showing grace to ourselves, or finding closure in past hurts, forgiveness is key to unlocking peace and healing.As believers in Christ, we’re called to forgive as we are forgiven daily by Jesus. While I’ll jokingly admit I’m no Jesus, the truth is, I’m constantly striving to be more like him. Forgiveness has been a personal struggle for me at times, as it may have been for you. Is there something you’re struggling to forgive, big or small? Forgiveness isn’t about forgetting; it’s about releasing the grip of trauma, challenge, or pain. I’ve crafted 7 action steps to forgiveness using the word FORGIVE. Today, I’ll share two favorites: Facing Your Feelings Acknowledging our emotions is the first step. Instead of burying or pushing aside our pain, we must confront it head-on. Embracing our feelings creates space for healing, recognizing their validity, and beginning the process of release.Facing your feelings means allowing yourself to sit with discomfort. It’s natural to want to avoid pain, but doing so only prolongs our suffering. Take the time to explore your emotions, even if they’re uncomfortable. Whether it’s anger, sadness, or disappointment, give yourself permission to feel. By facing our feelings, we create an opportunity for growth. We acknowledge the impact of past experiences on our present emotions, allowing ourselves to process and heal from them. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay. Emotions are neither good nor bad; they simply are. Embracing them is the first step towards forgiveness and inner peace. Granting Grace After facing our feelings head on, the next step is to extend grace to those who’ve wronged us. And for some they may need that “Amazing Grace” like the song, type of grace. You know what I mean! Forgiveness isn’t about excusing hurtful actions but freeing ourselves from resentment’s grip. It requires empathy and compassion, understanding everyone’s imperfections. How many times have you known better, but didn’t do better yourself? Granting grace means letting go of the desire for revenge or retribution. It’s recognizing that holding onto anger and bitterness only harms us in the long run. Instead, we choose to release the burden of resentment, offering forgiveness as a gift to ourselves. We open ourselves up to healing and reconciliation. Remember, it doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning the wrongdoing; it’s about choosing to move forward with peace and compassion in our hearts. Remember, forgiveness is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and self-compassion. If you’re struggling, seek support. Are you curious to what the other action steps are to true forgiveness? Join us for our upcoming webinar: Forgiveness Detox on May 22nd at 7 pm. Led by Coach Angela, this workshop offers practical strategies for forgiveness and toxicity release. Register now at RitaRicks.com. Together, let’s embrace forgiveness and embark on a path of healing and growth.

Rising Above: Healing the Wounds of Hurtful Words Growing up, the saying “Sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never harm me” echoed in my ears, meant to offer solace in the face of peoples hurtful words. However, I soon realized its inadequacy in capturing the true impact of words on our emotional well-being. They indeed did hurt. Words possess a profound power—they shape our perceptions, define our self-worth, and deeply influence our emotional state. Understanding the significance of words is highlighted through Gary Chapman’s theory of love languages, where words of affirmation rank as the second largest love language. This features the crucial role words play in human relationships—they have the ability to uplift, encourage, and affirm our worth. Conversely, when wielded carelessly or maliciously, they can inflict wounds that cut deep beneath the surface. I vividly recall moments when hurtful words made me doubt my value and sense of belonging. One instance, in particular, stands out—a person I trusted and cherished spoke slanderous lies behind my back to someone I deeply cared for. The shock and devastation were overwhelming, and even though the lies weren’t believed (Thank God), the negative emotions persisted. It served as a stark reminder of the immense power words hold, especially when they come from those we hold dear. And deep down I know the relationship will never be the same again. Yet, beyond the pain lies an opportunity for growth and healing. Why? Because we must! It’s a chance for us to delve into our emotions, understand the wounds inflicted, and embark on a journey of self-discovery and resilience. This journey begins with acknowledging the depth of our feelings (How bad does it hurt?) and allowing ourselves the grace to process the pain in a healthy and constructive manner. Whether through journaling to untangle our thoughts, finding solace in moments of silence to connect with our inner selves or our faith, seeking guidance from a coach or therapist, or leaning on the unwavering support of loved ones, it’s essential to create the space needed to grieve and ultimately heal from the wounds caused by hurtful words. Challenging the damaging beliefs implanted by hurtful words is crucial for reclaiming our sense of self-worth and dignity. We must actively counteract the negative narratives that may have taken root within us, reminding ourselves of our inherent value and resilience. This involves setting clear boundaries to protect our emotional well-being and recognizing when it’s necessary to distance ourselves from toxic relationships, prioritizing our healing and growth. In my previous blog, I discussed the significance of where people stand in your journey through life. Oftentimes, those who were once closest to you, your front row companions, or ride-or-dies, find themselves relegated to the parking lot or even on the other side of I-95. As we embark on this journey of healing, let’s not forget the importance of self-compassion and forgiveness. Extending grace to ourselves and others acknowledges our shared humanity and imperfections. While forgiveness is a powerful tool, it’s also essential to remember. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the hurtful words or the pain they caused; rather, it’s about releasing their hold on us and choosing to move forward with compassion and grace. In conclusion, may you find strength in adversity and courage in pain, knowing that healing is attainable. Though it may require time and effort, with faith, forgiveness, and empathy, we can rise above the hurt and discover inner peace. Remember, while words may leave lasting scars, they do not define us. We are resilient beings capable of healing and growth. By embracing our inner strength and worth, we reclaim our dignity and sense of self, transcending the pain of hurtful words.

The Language of the Soul: A Spiritual Journey to Self-Love and Connection Embarking on the spiritual journey to self-love unveils a profound impact that often goes unnoticed in a world emphasizing selflessness. In this exploration, we delve into the intricate relationship between self-love and the concept of love languages, recognizing that God’s love transcends and harmonizes with the unique ways we express and receive love. As we traverse the spiritual path of self-love, acknowledging and embracing our personal love languages emerges as an essential tool. Just as we express love uniquely in our personal relationships, understanding how we spiritually fill our love tank becomes pivotal. Spiritually led love languages guide us on this transformative journey: Words of Affirmation to the Soul: Picture whispering words of encouragement and affirmation to your inner self. Embrace the potency of positive self-talk, affirming your worthiness and divine essence. Let these words resonate within, creating a sacred space for self-love to flourish. Acts of Service for the Soul: Witness self-care transforming into a spiritual practice, viewed as acts of service to your soul. Nourish your body, mind, and spirit with activities that replenish and rejuvenate. Recognize the sacredness of taking time for yourself, understanding it as an act of love. Receiving Gifts from the Above: In moments of reflection and gratitude, acknowledge the gifts bestowed upon you by God. Your life, talents, and experiences are divine gifts. Embrace them with gratitude, recognizing that the universe expresses love in various forms tailored just for you. Quality Time with Your Inner Being: Dedicate quality time to self-discovery and introspection. Immerse yourself in the depths of your soul through meditation, prayer, or mindful practices. In this sacred space, connect with your true essence and cultivate a profound love for the unique being that is you. Physical Touch as a Spiritual Connection: Allow the physical touch of self-care rituals to evolve into a spiritual connection. A gentle touch during moments of self-compassion serves as a reminder of the divine love permeating every cell of your being. God’s love aligns seamlessly with your unique love languages, transcending all barriers and resonating with the depths of your soul. As you learn to love yourself fully, you become a vessel for God’s love to flow through you, extending to others. Your love languages, embraced and understood, become a channel for divine love to manifest in your relationships and interactions with the world. On this journey of self-love, remember that the love cultivated within is meant to be shared. Through your love languages, you radiate divine love—positivity, compassion, and understanding—to those around you. It’s hard not to! This spiritual journey of learning to love yourself fully is a transformation of the soul. Embrace your love languages as a sacred part of this process, knowing that God’s love aligns perfectly with the unique ways you express and receive love. As you bask in the warmth of self-love, you become a vessel for divine love, sharing its abundance with the world. I pray this journey bring you closer to your true self and the boundless love that God graciously shares.

Embracing the New Year: Expressing Love to Those in Our Front Row As the curtains begin to rise on a new year, the stage of life suggest that we ponder the roles people play in our personal narratives. It’s associated to a grand theater where individuals find their places—some in the front row, some in the balcony, and others relegated to the parking lot. The front row represents a select few—those special souls who walk alongside us through the highs and lows. Rita refers to them as our Ride-or-Dies! They are the pillars of strength, the ones who witness our vulnerabilities and celebrate our triumphs. These individuals aren’t just witnesses to our lives; they’re active participants, offering unwavering support and boundless love. In my journey, my dear brother occupied a prominent seat in this front row. His love was a compass that guided me through life’s labyrinth, his presence an anchor that provided support in rough and turbulent times. His passing emphasized the depth of this front-row connection, igniting a profound realization—a recognition of the value of expressing love and gratitude while we have the chance. Then there’s the balcony—a space reserved for those with whom we share a more peripheral connection. They’re part of our world, but their involvement is not as deeply rooted as those in the front row. These individuals witness parts of our lives, engaging in conversations and shared experiences, but they might not comprehend the intricacies of our inner world. It’s important to maintain your boundaries with these folks. Lastly, there’s the parking lot—a metaphorical space for people who were once part of our story but, for various reasons, no longer align with our journey. They might include former friends, acquaintances, Ex’s, or individuals whose paths diverged from ours.(Remember, some people are only in our lives only for a season) While their presence might have held significance at one point, life’s shifting dynamics led to their place in the parking lot. The separation between these tiers isn’t about hierarchies (or affordability like the theatre); it’s about understanding the varying degrees of connection and involvement in our lives. It’s about recognizing the depth of love, support, and loyalty you have surrounding you. Ultimately, it’s about comprehending the invaluable contribution of those in the front row—the love that molds our being and empowers us to embrace our truest selves. This new year prompts us not just to set resolutions but to reflect on the people who enrich our lives—the front row folks who offer unwavering love and support, the balcony acquaintances who share glimpses of our world, and the parking lot individuals whose paths diverged from ours. Reach out to those in your front row today—express your love and gratitude while you have the chance. May this new year be a testament to cherishing those in our front row—vocalizing our love and appreciation for their unwavering support. Let’s navigate this new year’s stage with gratitude for the roles these individuals play, for it’s their love that adds depth and richness to our stories. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!